Guide to Orgasm Denial

The concept of denying an orgasm seems like the complete opposite of what we were trying to achieve as a sex toy company. So why would someone want to deny an orgasm to start off with? Orgasm denial is actually quite a common kink, denying an orgasm can actually lead to a bigger, more explosive and fulfilling climax once it has finally been aloud.

What is orgasm denial?

Orgasm denial is essentially a sex game that falls under orgasm control. Fundamentally, it is where you are not aloud to orgasm for a specific period of time or until you complete a certain task that your dominant has set for you. Orgasm denial can be something you do by yourself, i.e. if you masturbate too much, or can be something that you play with your partner. As it is a great way to torment and tease them, and will make them beg for release at the end, even leading to you and your partner becoming closer and enjoying sex together even more. Denying your orgasm can increase your sexual chemistry, and result in better orgasms when you are aloud!

Types of orgasm denial

Both men and women can experience and play orgasm denial games, there are three main types of orgasm denial, these are:

  1. Complete Denial
  2. Tease and Denial
  3. Ruined Orgasm

As you can see these gradually build up into more intense sensations. Complete denial is where no orgasm is given, and no masturbation or sexual activity is aloud. This is easy to impose on your partner, and if they are male, after a few days they may wake up to a ‘wet patch’. If you gradually increase the time where no sexual activity is aloud then your partner will become more and more aroused, wanting sexual activity more and more.

Secondly, tease and denial, this is where you bring your partner close to orgasm, but you are not aloud to orgasm until permitted so by your partner. This is a great way to tease your partner and get them begging for more, giving you all the power.

Finally, ruined orgasm, this is where you bring your partner incredibly close to orgasm, and as they get closer and closer you do something to stop it or ruin it. This can be done in a variety or ways, for example, you may choose to stop all the stimulation just at the right point. You could also be a real pain to them. If they are about to climax why not slap or tickle them just at the right point. This will make them feel slightly uncomfortable, and also will shock and surprise them just at the right point.

Is orgasm denial a type of BDSM?

Orgasm denial is a perfect type of BDSM game for any kink-ster, whether you are a new player, or practice other types of BDSM scenes. Ruined orgasms may be punishment for your submissive partner, or you may be a submissive partner who is now aloud to have an orgasm. Some dominants play tease and denial games with their submissive to remind them who is in charge of their body.

Types of Sex Toys for Orgasm Denial

By playing a few orgasm denial games with your partner you are able to give your partner back-arching and screaming orgasms that will keep them obsessed with you. Orgasm denial games are extremely easy to do, and you don’t need anything to do it. That being said, their are different types of sex toys that are specifically designed to aid these games.

The main types of sex toys that are designed for orgasm denial are chastity devices. Loving Joy manufactures a range of cock cages that can be used to control your mans orgasms, and make him beg for release! If you are interested in getting a penis cage but aren’t quite sure which one, then take a look at our guide to the best chastity devices.

If you have any more questions on orgasm denial then please feel free to get in contact with us, and one of our bondage gear experts will get back to you as soon as possible.